Choose Empowerment: Stop Being a Doormat
We all experience situations when we say “yes” but really want to say “no.” It’s ok to sacrifice our own needs for others at times. But, when we continually put our own needs last, we allow others to take advantage of us. We begin to feel like a doormat, letting people walk all over us.
Being a doormat doesn’t mean we’re weak, incompetent, or unlovable. It means we've developed a pattern of not putting ourselves first. There are reasons for this behavior stemming from childhood experiences. Our family environment may have encouraged us to sacrifice our well-being. The problem is that being a doormat is draining, unfulfilling, and damaging to our health and well-being.
Signs You Might Be a Doormat
If you feel drained and unfulfilled in your relationships, ask yourself:
Do I always agree to do things for others even when I’m overworked or busy?
Do I usually say yes even if it goes against my desires or values?
Do I constantly apologize even when I have done nothing wrong?
Do I often feel that people overlook my feelings, opinions, or contributions?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, you’re likely allowing others to take advantage of you. The good news is that once you recognize you’re being a doormat, you have the power to stop this behavior.
Choose Empowerment
Choosing empowerment doesn’t mean you’re selfish or inconsiderate. It means you’re ready to consider yourself first. With practice and determination, you can break free from your doormat mentality. Here are some ways to start.
Understand your worth:
Recognize that you and your time are valuable.
Know that your thoughts, feelings, and needs are important.
Set boundaries:
Decide what behaviors you will and will not accept from others.
Learn how to say no.
Speak up:
Voice your truth.
Understand that communication and self-respect are keys to healthy relationships.
Seek support:
Learn the tools of empowerment.
Find people who encourage you to make positive changes.
Embracing empowerment is a journey. Deciding to stop being a doormat requires a willingness to practice new behaviors. Realize you do not need to do this alone. Find a potent therapist who will help support you and guide you.
As a licensed psychologist, I specialize in helping people become empowered. I strive to create a safe and supportive environment, give you tools and knowledge, and help you heal. The door to an empowered life is in front of you. Will you walk through it?
Schedule your appointment with me today at Michael Kimball Integrative Psychotherapy in Toledo, Ohio. I am proud to help clients from surrounding communities including Sylvania, Maumee, Bowling Green, Temperance, and Monroe. Let me help you learn how to live a happy life.
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